A message to the female "go-getters"

Ok. This is what i really want to write about. Not to get all "Sex in the City" ish but we need to talk about a problem that many young women face. I cannot think of a term to generalize this idea, so i will explain it instead. As girls, our parents taught us to be go-getters. No longer did they only prepare us for a world in the house. They taught us to have dreams and more importantly make them happen. My parents always stressed the importance of excelling in what i do. I learned to figure out what i wanted and learned how to get what i wanted. I became a go-getter. In school I have excelled, in jobs i have excelled, I have a great group of friends. I have not done so well with relationships. All the lessons we learn about being "go-getters" are irrelevant when it comes to relationships. When we decide we like a guy, we can't go out and "get" him. We have to patiently wait for him. We have to act mysterious and say vague things. God forbid we be too direct. If we do, we risk being "too aggressive". It seems that the dating game has not progressed at the same rate as female independence. For some reasons those ideas that we can do whatever we want and make things happen do not translate well in the dating world. I am unsure what to do with this realization right now. I guess i will have to come back to it later...